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This is Our Motherhood | At Simple As That

I once ran a half-marathon in San Francisco where every time we hit a plateau—every time we finally stopped climbing—I’d lift my eyes and see another hill starting just yards in front of me.

That’s motherhood. A series of hills, interspersed with brief plateaus when we’re lucky.

The problem is that we don’t always recognize when we’re on a plateau. We forget that we have air in our lungs and some parenting confidence swelling in our hearts.

And then we start to climb again, and dang it, we realize we missed the plateau.

Tell me it’s not just me that happens to! ;) To see where I’m going with this post, I hope you’ll take a moment follow me over to Simple As That with one quick click. Thank you!

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7 Quotes for When You Need to Care Less about What Other People Think (Printable)

Women watch.

We watch what our peers are wearing at school drop-off. We watch how other women talk to the kids whose hands they’re holding or the sales clerk whose attention they’re seeking.

We watch.

And in turn, we expect that everyone else is watching us too.

But it’s exhausting, and I for one can always benefit from the reminder to keep my eyes focused on the work that matters to me. My own growth, my family’s health and wellbeing—the good stuff.

A month or so ago, this headline caught my eye. I loved the concept but didn’t relate as fully to the quotes they shared. So I put together a few quotes that have touched me over the years and have helped me remember in some form or another to dial back my self-consciousness and dial up my self-love.

I hope one of these quotes strikes you like they have me!

7 Quotes for When You Need to Care Less about What Other People Think. Because we all need less self-consciousness and more self-love!

1. For when you need to remember that the hard stuff brings growth:

All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost.
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.
– J. R. R. Tolkien, Lord of the Rings

2. For when you need to choose your company with care: 

“I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” – Mahatma Gandhi


3. For when you need to watch what you let your mind dwell on: 

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” –Socrates

4. For when you need to let go: 

“I found my life when I laid it down.” – hand-lettered art

5. For when you have to go easy on those around you: 

“How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and the strong, because someday in your life, you will have been all of these.” – George Washington Carver


6. For when you need to remember that it’s way better to be a doer than a mocker: 

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again… If he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly.” – Theodore Roosevelt (also the cornerstone of Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly)

7. For when you need to realize whose voice you’re listening to: 

There is a voice inside of you
That whispers all day long,
“I feel this is right for me,
I know that this is wrong.”
No teacher, preacher, parent, friend
Or wise man can decide
What’s right for you—just listen to
The voice that speaks inside.
– Shel Silverstein, “The Voice”

The Voice by Shel Silverstein

Oh man, that Shel Silverstein was wise. Free printable here. :)


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A Tiny Step on the Long Road to Self-Love

You guys. THIS is the post of the series. A close friend of mine emailed it to me. As soon as I started reading, I couldn’t stop, and I felt SO grateful that she was willing to share it with us. I really hope you’ll consider passing this post on, because even if self-love is coming more and more naturally…


Negative Thought Download | An Exercise for More Self-Love

Yesterday as I dropped our boys off at school, amid the usual scramble of putting lunch boxes and homework folders in all the right places, I noticed that our kindergartener had his shoes on the wrong feet. This is just how this child rolls. Up until kindergarten, no underwear, a backwards shirt, and shoes on the wrong feet were practically his daily uniform. But…