Not long ago, an article on Scary Mommy caught my attention: Dear Husband: Here Are the Only Things I Want for My Birthday. Because what we all apparently want is—
“An entire day of love and doing everything I ask. If this is talking over dinner about the intricacies of The Bachelor, so be it. If I want you to clean out the garage, avail yourself of the cleaning supplies. Do NOT ask me where they are. That ruins it.
Here’s the fine print: I am not supposed to be aware of you doing any of these things. Get off my computer and don’t ask my Etsy log in. Write the card at work. You’re smart. Figure it out.”
If there is anything I’ve learned in the last decade, it’s that expectations put a BIG FAT DAMPER on everything.
Granted, that Scary Mommy piece was likely satirical. I sure hope it was! (Otherwise, watch out for one SCARY MOMMY every year on her birthday!) Regardless of any intended satire, I somehow doubt that the 127,000 people who shared it, shared it in irony. In fact, the comments show that a LOT of women are unsatisfied on their birthdays.
After experiencing my share of disappointing holidays (why do babies refuse to nap on our birthdays??), I finally discovered a deceptively simple fix.
Use the day to celebrate your life.
The same goes for Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, and any other day of the year where your brain tells you people should be celebrating YOU. Instead, do the celebrating yourself.
Celebrate the big, small, scary, joyful, chaotic, calm life you’re living.
Take the kids to play in the local creek. Order pizza for dinner so you don’t have to cook. Go easy on yourself, but try to leave your fingers uncrossed. No more hoping that the kids will be angels and that the Mr. will show up early from work and send you out to get a pedicure.
Life is too short to be disappointed on your birthday. But it’s just long enough to appreciate the good in every season.
I’m sure you all caught on to this ages ago, but I thought I’d pass it on just in case. Here’s to happier, healthier, more satisfying celebrating, ladies!
Beautiful images from Simplicity Photography